....heard from TDH this morning that the Ministry of Children and Youth Services has approved the extension of my Homestudy until March 19, 2011 (six month extension)....so one more piece of paperwork to check off the list....however again hope that Matteo is home way before then!
Anyhow it has been a trying few days, not so much because of the wait on the medical and a few other work related stresses, but a dear friend of mine and the oldest friend of mine - we were child hood friends and grew up next door to each other - so have known each other all our lives....well her dad Giovanni passed away on Sunday morning after a brief but very serious illness... One day when I was visiting and just keeping vigil....he told Isa that he wanted to speak to me so I went to his side and held his hand and told him I was there and then he asked "your little boy, when will you bring him home?"...I was surprised and so was Isa....she had told her dad about Matteo and she had mentioned it to him in the days before but she wasn't sure how much he was hearing or understanding. When I received Matteo's referral Giovanni was in the hospital. When I told Isa about Matteo's referral, I told her I wished it was under different circumstances. She just reminded me that this was the circle of life, life and death, and was very happy for me. Anyhow Isa's dad told me, with some of the last bits of energy he had, that this was a good thing and that adopting Matteo was very good. He reminds me a lot of my dad and as I've lost my dad, for me it was as if it was my dad himself telling me this, so it meant a lot and especially that here he was so sick and felt that he wanted me to know this.
Even up to the end, he was telling people that he liked them, that he loved them, giving tidbits of advice to his children, thanking the nurses when he was given his pain medication etc. and thanking others who came to visit. He made sure that he did not leave any details and wish unstated. All those who could were able to say their goodbyes. It will be a hard few days ahead and then the loss will really set in after this week of our final goodbyes; however, I know that his children and all those who knew him will be blessed with knowing how much he cared for them and did for others and for those who could not speak for themselves..
.....yet of course for now these days and those ahead will be difficult and are definitely tinged with sadness.... Grazie Giovanni for your blessings for Matteo and my family. I know my parents are waiting for you in a better place where you and they are no longer suffering. Please know that your children will be cared for and loved by all those who cared for you..... Goodbye Giovanni.
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