We have been having amazing summer weather and it seems like it is continuing. Our air conditioner died on Sunday so it was a sleepless night for both me and Matteo...while our appt. to repair it was scheduled for Wednesday, I called first thing Monday morning desperately asking for some help on Monday. They obliged and later that afternoon I couldn't believe how happy I was. Working from home was very challenging and not very productive in the heat and poor little Matteo...just did not have the heart to put him through another night of that...we had no fans other than the kitchen ceiling fan and believe me I was planning to have us sleep there if that is what it took to hang on until Wednesday. I cannot imagine anyone not having some kind of respite from this heat...sometimes it has been wonderful but at other times the humidity only makes it wonderful when you know you have some cool air somewhere. Think I'm hearing some thunder in the distance...they forecast thunder showers this afternoon, but nothing. So maybe tonight. There is a nice light breeze and I'm enjoying the deck with my three 'cat' boys while my other little boy went right to sleep at 7:45.
Matteo seems to be adjusting well to his new room and new caregivers though he was already familiar with them as the way they work in the daycare is very much focused on everyone knowing all the children so they will feel safe with them. The room is a newer room and has stations much like a classroom might...it is more focused on a very active day and even has its own little bathroom as many of the senior toddlers are in various stages of toilet training. And speaking of toilet training...well Matteo has been teaching himself and continues to be successful with using the toilet and potty. On Sunday we had the first full dry diaper day and that was great. I credit three things...Matteo's personality, following mommy to the toilet from day one...not sure if this is a single parent thing, but really.....and then his daycare has been great with their process with actually seating each child on the potty during diaper changing...so when they told me Matteo was already starting to pee, that was our sign. Of course he is still waking up with a wet diaper, not as wet, but I was told to expect some regression this week as he is transitioning, so won't expect much but did really well when he came home. Even on our fabulous weekend in Kingston and Toronto, Matteo did great with telling me he needed "pee potty" though one time we were no where near a potty.... On the down side I think he is starting the use the "pee potty" as a kind of distraction when he wants me to focus on something else...especially if he is being reprimanded for something or other.....but this has only happened a few times and I always, if we can, follow through with believing him and trying to encourage him to tell mommy the truth.... and yes I think even at this age, Matteo knows what truth means....will save that story for another blog...as I am writing more than I planned here.
Anyhow just wanted to say a few words about adoption #2...not that we have heard anything more, and not sure that I can trust my feelings on this, as I know with Matteo there were many false starts....so all to say that I am feeling very positive about a sibling for Matteo, again, not that I have been told anything other than we are on a very short list. But somehow it is feeling very positive and I find myself including a new child in my conversations with Matteo, with how I am looking at Matteo's room, not giving away any more of his clothes, and just generally feeling like I am trying to prepare now, even though noone has given me any kind of timeline. And even though things may change to negative very quickly.....however I do know that special needs children are available to be adopted and there are many. In the recent agency newsletter, D explained how the numbers of special needs adoption placed in a country will have a direct affect on those in the regular stream...so they continue to place and /or try to get families to consider this stream. I was surprised to read how many special needs adoptions have taken place as it seems to have been quiet, but quiet only in thate we were not aware of them...but now as I have mentioned...there are two families who have just adopted from Vung tau, and both were special needs, and both families may be coming home soon....so those adoptions have happened and maybe that is why I have been feeling very positive.
I know waiting for a second child can be just as hard as the first, but so far, it has not been difficult and I'm sure that's also because there is already one here, and Matteo's life is changing so much that I am trying not to miss anything....his sense of humour is just precious, his vocabulary is building daily and he continues to learn new things. He can still be so so so very stubborn with wanting what he wants when he wants it..and we are working with that, and he definitely loves the car for short trips but we had challenges on our longer drive on our trip, despite the car seat being forward facing. He still loves books and is now bringing me other books to read, and not only Caillou and Thomas books. He loves puzzles and each day when he comes home from daycare I have a puzzle waiting for us. He loves the 'kitty kats' and is still working on the names of two of them but has mastered one and each morning greets him with 'good moning beecheee'.....so we're doing okay and waiting but not waiting at the same time....I think more like preparing, even if only in our heads and hearts.
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