…I am feeling so angry, frustrated, confused, guilty, sad, and just plain awful, stomach in knots, about the news I received a couple of days ago…
…..as you know we were doing okay with the reality that we were not going to be able to move forward to adopt Malio/K, perhaps having turned a corner towards acceptance, trust and new hope. We were praying that a new family could be found who would be better able to handle his medical needs…
....Well I received a message that told me that little K had taken ill and while they tried to get him medical care at a larger hospital, it was too late and he passed away as the result of a major infection. I was totally shocked at this news, totally helpless, and now I grieve again!
I am sure they did the best they could under the circumstances, but I am so angry at this adoption process that takes forever and children who have to live in orphanages that do not get the personal love of a family sooner and then that family can help them through any health issues that may arise.
Something has to change, this process needs to change, children need loving homes sooner, adoptive parents need to love their children not from afar but close up, in their arms. And if God wills such an awful end then every child deserves to be embraced in the loving arms of his mother as he leaves this earth and not alone in a hospital without a forever family supporting them.
I feel helpless and so very sad. I continue to pray that Malio/K is at peace and not in pain any longer. I also continue to pray that I find understanding in all of this loss as I continue to love a little boy who had such a hard beginning and end in his short life, and who spiritually had become a part of our family (another son, a baby brother, a nephew, a cousin and a godchild) and especially our hearts for such a brief time.
I am so sorry Malio/K that I could not be there for you!
Goodbye Malio /K. We will always love you!!
Tạm biệt Malio/K. Chúng tôi sẽ luôn luôn yêu em !!
Oh, Francesca, my deepest sympathies. There are no words that can ease your pain and heart ache. Know that I am thinking and praying for all of you. One day we will meet, your city or mine I don't know, but when we do we will be able to give each other a great big hug. Try to stay strong my friend. I agree with all you say about speeding up the process to find forever homes for children. Whether it be illness, birthdays, holidays or just really bad days, children need the love and support of a family, whatever form that family takes.
ReplyDeletelove and hugs,
Elizabeth
Francesca, I was shocked to read this. There is really nothing to say but that I am so terribly sorry. I hope he had loving care and I hope you are getting loving support. Hugs to you and Matteo.
ReplyDeleteJoanne
I'm so sorry. This is devastating. I'm here for you, your whole TDH family is here for you. Your words are wise. You're in my thoughts. Feel free to email me any time. Lee-Anne
ReplyDeleteSuch a terrible tragedy, my heart breaks for you. Ben and I send our love your way.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to read of this. Take time to grieve this deep loss. This dear boy is now in the arms of his forever family... God's. If you need to talk please pm me through fb.
ReplyDeleteHugs
From one adoptive mama to another
Sara